Its really sad because dog owners who do this never care about how anyone else feels or about their own cleanliness and surroundings. I am not an animal person. im seriously thinking of leaving him he just doesnt take me seriously ,the dog even weed on my little doggy while she was having a poo he run over to her and cocked his leg all my parnter did said she must have got in his way ha ha pathetic excuse , he always has piss on his front legs and i wash them but my partner just lets him straight into the house without even checking god i hate this dog. See, I like that,my wife thinks that dog is a human child and thats one of our problems. Otherwise, the dog was great. Are you serious right now? BK you guys have the absolute correct vision of how things should be with a pet. When he does bark the sound can pierce my boyfriends damaged ear and all the stress he feels about the apartment, money, health, etc. Ive read quite a few of your posts and I feel that mine situation is not as harsh as all of yours. Sleep, forget about that too. Thats when my hell began. So he did. He has also peed in the house a couple of times. I was really nervous moving in because I pictured having to deal with all these things but if you just calmly communicate your issues and work together Theres a way to figure things out. My boyfriend loves this dog while I cant stand it. He resented the cat for the love I showed it, perhaps he was jealous, but I am not unaffectionate towards him? i even know of instances when couples had a kid that they were raised that the dog is their older brother or sister !! I am soon going to be 78 years old and hope that there will be a time when I can have time without them before I pass on. The best part about bigger dogs is the feeling of having them around, to me its so positive. I consider giving them up {Ive had the pigs for over a year}, ignoring the nasty comments, or moving {but not sure I can afford another house and this home is 50% mine and Ive put money into it. } While I would choose the dog over the guy, I dont want that to happen. Theres highly rated dog food for 1.1/kg but she wouldnt think of it. Then again its how you treat the dog, the dog learns from its owner. I tell him he is making it worse, he reads that same thing and attempts to change his behavior for about a minute. I am so happy I left. She was removed. Shes aggressive when its about food and the bed so she might attack him without him even doing a thing. Dog doesnt know a kennel. She flaps her ears all the time and wakes me up at night. I think this would be cruel, so start as you mean to go on if you wish to put your dogs best interest at heart. My husband knew I loved animals and before now he was OK with it. They are DOGS, animals.. Not humans. I dealt with it 2 months, I felt like I didnt matter. Is he a narcissist since he has isolated you from friends and now your furry friends? So, he suddenly loves her? I know what you mean about having people out there that understand. Hes 8 yrs old (blue) and the other one is 7 (Bobbi) aka pig swine and has ADHD. I actually feel with time, I will pity the man in the end. Dogs are dogs and children are children! Please advise ? I dont not give a monkey to be honest. They are very, very good dogs. How were we, the dog victims, supposed to know that our dog-obsessed partner would tell us to be quiet when our family doctor calls so that doggo can bark outside, instead of going out there and make the dog be quiet so that we can hear what our doctor is saying on the phone? He puts a smile on my face everyday. He claimed to have loved them but his version of a pet and mine are very different and now ive fallen pregnant hes turned into a control freak and if my dogs are within an inch of him he gets annoyed. These people dont even really think for themselves. Just like you, I wouldnt ask anything outlandish either. My story is very similar to all of yours except I was the dog owner going into it. Even then, its not too excited about anything. And I would have. My boyfriend brang home a 3 month old bitbull puppy female. All of that goes because we dont want to live with a shit factory? Those people with like, 4 German Shephards and a few cats too. She also sniffs constantly. I started to love her. Nutrition matters: Sometimes, the problem is a lack of nutrition. What is the glue that is holding them together? My SO has a dog. If you cant accept that sort of all-encompassing commitment then dont get a dog. Wow. UGH! He pees everywhere no matter how many times you take him on a walk or let him outside. Please find a home or even a foster home for the dog, he deserves to be with a family that truly wants him! since I left my partner my dog is so much more relaxed and only now I realise the reason why his own dog was an absolute nervous wreck, he said it was due to her being an ill treated rescue dog but actually now I believe she was warning me of something very dangerous considering what I know now about that man. So disgusting! They CAN be in a crate. She is putting her family first, but still valuing her pets. He knows his place in the pecking order. I agree with Paul. It is unfair to make demands like this of someone else. I would have to question anyone that would hand out ultimatums to their SO or anyone who would be willing to part with a pet that they made a commitment to based on an ultimatum. All this with the power of love. You are human, a different species. And it will., So true, dont count yourself short, you are worth so much more than being treated as you currently are. Dog nutters are mentally deranged. The guy I am with hates dogs with a bloody passion and I have THREE. Hello I am in a similar situation and its been very hard. Renee I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but getting a dog without consulting your husband was a bad idea. I dont understand that thought process either of getting upset that the dog is having to do dog things and then they try to make you feel guilty because you want the animals to be treated like a pet and be properly trained instead of being treated like your first born child? Its not like getting rid of a toy. But I am aware that he does not treat them equally and my dog has picked that up too. ! I said no! Why get a dog in the first place then??? Maybe they should do the same to pet lovers. He will break out of whatever you try and put him in then raise hell on the whole house. We do sleep in the same bed, but when she came, she began sleeping in the room with us. Instead, I set up a crate and dog bed in the walk in closet. I would let her sleep with us until she pooped in our bed. They come out there, put their mouth at the table because we have breakfast food on there and wipe drool on the table (throw up city!) And then all those hairs EVERYWHERE and a constant smell of ammonia of all the pee in the house. She paws and scratches at my side of th bed all night. If your partner does not respect how you feel towards animal rearing, they certainly will respect you with other things as well. He said he was fine with my poodles before we got married, but now wants them gone. and has a nasty, intimidating growl anytime another dog comes near those things. If I discipline the dog I am scowled at!! I left and havent regretted it. However, he rarely comes over after work and complains if I ask him to. I just want to say that I see both sides here. I thought it spoke volumes of their relationship. It wasnt an overly-excited dog, just liked to chill and sit and be with us, which was great. Hey look at my pretend partner YOU inferior human never mind how it makes YOU feel Im too busy pretending/making up inappropriate and misguided feelings for my mutt. After I got married, my husband decided that he needed a dog as well so he brought home a St Bernard puppy that is now a 3 year old, 160 lb drool machine. Before your dog starts to regress and starts pooping and peeing in the house. Doesnt see our grandkids anymore. What should I do, I have know where to go and no money bc everything is in her name and bank account. Obedience training is expensive and she doesnt have the money and its not my responsibility to pay for it . Ive never trained a dog, (I am more of a cat person) and I had no idea how much attention and supervision a puppy needs. Dont get the Bark Genie, the chihuahua barks right through it. gets channeled to the dog with yelling. Some people regard these dogs over their human companion which I think is absolutely disgusting. She adopted a dog (3 years old) after two years and we were both excited (Keep in mind, I didnt really have any say in getting the dog or not. I have been married for over a year and living with my hubby for over 3 years. Which came first the dog humping or the social isolation? So I searched and searched for a tiny dog. Shes been poorly trained however and isnt at all obedient. And also, you might want to checking out some good books on marriage and relationships. The thing is, i told her hes ok at the foot of the bed, i dont mind him on the bed if hes there and i had been telling her for 3 months to start training him but she jokingly would refuse to do so. Seriously, some of you dog owners are insane! He refuses to get rid of the older dog with is the worst of the two since hes old & blind. Am i in the wrong? And Im so sorry for all that youve gone through. This 50-something woman who until recently had her cat living in her house for fourteen long years insisted on being the caretaker it was her idea to help us with that, not ours. I dont understand why she even has him if she doesnt want to do anything with him. Because my partner lets her do whatever she wants against how I feel. If the dog is the cause of many conflicts in your family, its a good idea to consult a professional psychologist to seek help. What do I do??? Husband/boyfriend has an extravagant amount of responsibility for the canine. He needs to meet me in the middle just as I have met his demands every time concerning the dog until now. It was wearing diapers for at least six months, walking into walls, it forgot who we were, forgot its name, and forgot any commands. this mutt constantly undermines me and its my partners fault as its allowed by her. I just wish hed either help or give her to his mom. She sleeps with me, but I groom her and rmb s in her diet and weekly toothbrush she doesnt have bad breath or fart. It was double what the house I sold cost. My fiance and i have been together for almost 3 years. He has separation anxiety and she found out the hard way by her neighbor calling the cops to her condo because he was howling all day when she left for work. He had me promise that I would train a new one as well as I did my last. Id chosen the colour of the carpets and walls and was so excited showing him. According to her he also gets, cold all the time, so he wants to go under the covers. Developing a relationship with an animal is pretty easy, quick and simple but developing a deep and lasting relationship with a human will most always require much effort. She didnt beg or whine constantly. I think I know who is wrong. The kids are starting to resent her and the fact is that this is taking a huge toll on our marriage. Yes its shown that some dogs can even reach the level of a 4 year old in emotional processing. My bf always allowed his dog to sleep with him, then we moved in together and I said absolutely not. I received pictures every week and I can see by her sleeping posture that she is both happy and comfortable. I finish feeding the baby, my husband gets up as I am burping him, and goes into the section of the house where the dog is confined to. Are you in CA? They go berserk at anyone that comes near the house but im not alloud to interveen to shut them up, my daughter calls me a c##t and my wife says im a bastard but not to my face. I have mild allergies so she irritates my nose when in close proximity not to mention I think a dog in bed is so unsanitary. They would lay quietly on their beds in our living room and maintain a respectful distance when ever a meal was served. With the dog hair it needs to be vacuumed every day, but I dont get to vacuuming daily. I tell my mother to stay married to this man means I will never have another pet, which I greatly dislike that thought, but I know my spouse will turn it into a human rather than respecting the species for what God has created. For starters, chewing is something that pretty much all puppies do. Once the kids move out and get their own lives if they want tons and tons of pets thats great I can go visit their pets. And a mean one at that. We have hair and slobber everywhere in our home that I wind up cleaning on a daily basis and I still absolutely adore this dog. Today had an argument with my husband about his dog. 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